1. Yourself. If you feel shit because of someone else, know that you ultimately would process what he/she did to you, thus making you the final arbitter of your emotions. Remember,  your emotions are valid, but sometimes the reason behind doesn't make sense to you. Don't let anyone's invalidation of what you feel roll over you. Also more importantly, their invalidation won't matter as long as you never invaldiate what you feel. However, the reasoning behind why you felt it is something you can take on rationally. You would notice a couple of times the reason for the emotion doesn't make sense. What you can process with it is to try making sense of  it. If that didn't work, have a nice sing along with your usual jams in the shower or maybe listen to something new. Read a book. Get some sunlight. Sweat a little, or a lot. Then come back again and try to make sense of it. A sound and healthy way of managing your emotions lies in the understanding of how things turned out the way they did. It's tough to hold on to being reasonable all the time, but it's even tougher being emotionally grounded. Imagine being tough on yourself because of a memory. You check your phone, you see an old letter encased in a mixtape you sent someone who is no longer in your life. So you sort of breakdown a little bit. Show some emotions. Sure you will cry. But at the end of the day, if you try to make sense of it you will see no one else is triggering it but a memory of a distant past processed in your hippocampus. It won't ever make sense to make yourself your enemy.

Let's work with what we have even in its purest form it is only just one, but it's a whole lot of ammunition and firepower; it's yourself!

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Day 11/31 #AgostoKoSariliKo
Agosto ko Sarili ko is part of a healing and continuous reinvention process where I am forcing myself, day to day deadlines ala Nas Daily, of any creative work for the entire month of August. Why don't you do it as well or if you want we can collaborate? Hit me up.